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Xin · 07-10-2007, 07:33 PM

As some of you may know, I was struggling a bit with some loneliness feelings, mainly related to not being able to connect in a deeper level with people. Anyway, I was checking some old notebooks of mine, and came across some sentences wrote by friends and persons I cared a lot. And something dawned on me.

Instead of complaing about not receiving, with all that I know and am able to do, why am I not the one to be there for others? To be on the giving end instead of the receiving (love to fear polarization, is this it?).

Immediatly, as I recalled memories of friends and what they have gone through, I felt this intense desire to improve. I felt that if I could be the best possible person, I would be able to, in some way, help others. Some famous guys think or thought this way, such as Bruce Lee or Will Smith.

I want, from the bottom of my heart, to make the life of others more 'shiny' just because I made a part of it. I want to help my friends, those who I care about, my family.

But I'm a tad confused. How *really* improving myself would help others? If I became rich, courageous, nice, tap into all my potencial, how would others benefit? I may inspire and serve as a role-model for others, but is that enough?

I know some of you think this way (improve oneself to extremes to help others), so I'd like to hear some insight into this. Why do you feel this way? How do you feel you'll be able to make a change? Has it ever made a really change?

07-10-2007, 07:33 PM	#1 (permalink)
Xin Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 84	Improve oneself to help others? As some of you may know, I was struggling a bit with some loneliness feelings, mainly related to not being able to connect in a deeper level with people. Anyway, I was checking some old notebooks of mine, and came across some sentences wrote by friends and persons I cared a lot. And something dawned on me. Instead of complaing about not receiving, with all that I know and am able to do, why am I not the one to be there for others? To be on the giving end instead of the receiving (love to fear polarization, is this it?). Immediatly, as I recalled memories of friends and what they have gone through, I felt this intense desire to improve. I felt that if I could be the best possible person, I would be able to, in some way, help others. Some famous guys think or thought this way, such as Bruce Lee or Will Smith. I want, from the bottom of my heart, to make the life of others more 'shiny' just because I made a part of it. I want to help my friends, those who I care about, my family. But I'm a tad confused. How really improving myself would help others? If I became rich, courageous, nice, tap into all my potencial, how would others benefit? I may inspire and serve as a role-model for others, but is that enough? I know some of you think this way (improve oneself to extremes to help others), so I'd like to hear some insight into this. Why do you feel this way? How do you feel you'll be able to make a change? Has it ever made a really change?