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Originally Posted by ArtVandelay  Great advice people, keep it coming.
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Yes, working out at the same time even more so. Try to keep yourself in a positive state that doesn't depend on their reactions being positive. You're happy, and thats just the way it is.
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- I notice people touch each-other a lot when they communicate. I don't do this at all. Is there a way or place where I can learn how to do this—what's appropriate, what's charismatic, etc.
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Spend an afternoon people watching. Go read a book in a food court at a busy mall or park or restaurant, but quietly watch other people interacting with and touching each other. Pick what looks charismatic and use that. Learn it gradually. Its an intuitive thing you just need to get the hang of.
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- Is there a good internet guide to body language somewhere? I don't want to read someone's body language (well, it would be interesting, but it's not what I'm looking for), but I'd like to know how to never look awkward, have charismatic body language, and I guess attract people.
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Just practice dude. Go work out, use weights, fix your posture. Imitate rock stars or pimps or Anthony Robbins if you want. Emulate the actions of others until you can be comfortable doing your own thing. There is no such comprehensive internet guide, and you really just want to be yourself instead of some tool who follows
set rules from a book. Face it, you are going to screw up many times as you progress, there will be awkward pauses and limp handshakes. Just brush yourself off and congratulate yourself for learning something new. Eventually, you won't even have to think about it.
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- Where do you put your hands when you're standing? Having them dangle by my sides seems kind of odd. I remember something about showing your palms being attractive/charismatic, but that always looks kind of awkward.
Thanks guys!
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Again, try people watching. Just watch people gesturing while interacting. Do what they do until you get the hang of it yourself. Focus on being normal and comfortable first, then beef it up.