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lesreg · 07-08-2007, 04:02 AM

I have been married for 11 years, 3 kids, tough, tough, tough. I seen my parents still married for 29 years and still ask HOW? this is a lot. We spent our 20's together and we are in our early 30's, we went through rough patches, like everyone but recently, I dont like him. I see him as a boulder I carry on my shoulder. I had dreams, goals, and many aspirations to do things with my life and now they can still be achieved but with harder work and sacrifice with him and that makes me dislike him. GOD blessed me with a wonderful family that if you are doing or wanting to do good in your life they are 110% behind you so I have a sitter or money or anything I need to make my dreams come true. I am reading, self-help, want to go back to school and feel like I have to carry him through everything. I tried the secret but he seems to hate seeing me coming up or even happy. When he sees that I am happy, he mentions something to make me sad, or he does something that he knows will get me mad. He knows he is a semi-father, he knows he cannot compete with my organization or intelligence, so when I say, hey I think i want to go back to school and return to the working world, he brings up excuses to make sure I cant do it, or he says well call your mom to come live with us because who is going to cook. My mom has her own household. He works, he comes home and lays in front of the tv on the couch, while I talk homework, baths, plan trips, PTA meetings, BAnd Boosters, etc. and I take care of them all day, he is out of it. He doesnt even know my sons school. I created this, I know but when I let some of my responsibilities onto him, he fails big. Maybe on purpose, maybe because he isnt thinking. I am very prepared and know what and when, he has to call me and say was that meeting today? At work he has no problem managing 150 employees but one meeting with a teacher and he is all thumbs. It sounds like Im dogging him and Im telling you Im trying not to, thats just him, he knows it. The secret says imagine, picture it, where you can be in your future and Im sorry to say I cant see a good future with him. I close my eyes and see my life soaring, with wealth success, love, independance, and not him. I tried adding him, and he is on the couch while I'm soaring (LOL). We both are the same age, Ive told him to come on lets do this together, he says maybe tomorrow and tomorrow never comes. Its true men dont mature as fast, but we arent teens now, so how long do I wait for him to GET IT? What NOW?

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lesreg Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 1	lets try to save this one I have been married for 11 years, 3 kids, tough, tough, tough. I seen my parents still married for 29 years and still ask HOW? this is a lot. We spent our 20's together and we are in our early 30's, we went through rough patches, like everyone but recently, I dont like him. I see him as a boulder I carry on my shoulder. I had dreams, goals, and many aspirations to do things with my life and now they can still be achieved but with harder work and sacrifice with him and that makes me dislike him. GOD blessed me with a wonderful family that if you are doing or wanting to do good in your life they are 110% behind you so I have a sitter or money or anything I need to make my dreams come true. I am reading, self-help, want to go back to school and feel like I have to carry him through everything. I tried the secret but he seems to hate seeing me coming up or even happy. When he sees that I am happy, he mentions something to make me sad, or he does something that he knows will get me mad. He knows he is a semi-father, he knows he cannot compete with my organization or intelligence, so when I say, hey I think i want to go back to school and return to the working world, he brings up excuses to make sure I cant do it, or he says well call your mom to come live with us because who is going to cook. My mom has her own household. He works, he comes home and lays in front of the tv on the couch, while I talk homework, baths, plan trips, PTA meetings, BAnd Boosters, etc. and I take care of them all day, he is out of it. He doesnt even know my sons school. I created this, I know but when I let some of my responsibilities onto him, he fails big. Maybe on purpose, maybe because he isnt thinking. I am very prepared and know what and when, he has to call me and say was that meeting today? At work he has no problem managing 150 employees but one meeting with a teacher and he is all thumbs. It sounds like Im dogging him and Im telling you Im trying not to, thats just him, he knows it. The secret says imagine, picture it, where you can be in your future and Im sorry to say I cant see a good future with him. I close my eyes and see my life soaring, with wealth success, love, independance, and not him. I tried adding him, and he is on the couch while I'm soaring (LOL). We both are the same age, Ive told him to come on lets do this together, he says maybe tomorrow and tomorrow never comes. Its true men dont mature as fast, but we arent teens now, so how long do I wait for him to GET IT? What NOW?