Great article as always John…
One other great cause of argument is our “personal rules…”
We all have personal rules for almost every aspect of life… and we mistakenly think that those rules are universal…
As an example… one person may feel that children should be free to express themselves in almost any way they want… while another as the rule that children should behave and be respectful…
In a case like that… if these two people are surrounded by unruly children… there is bound to be some sort of friction…
So, if people realize that the source of friction is caused by different personal rules… and not a right or wrong situation, they could either discuss those rules… or simply decide which is preferable… peace or upholding a personal rule…
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