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awu · 11-12-2006, 06:00 AM

How did you make most of your friends in College?

I am finding it difficult to make as many friends as I would like to have. What's worse, I'm now in my 4th year, not my first, so you'd think I'd be experienced by now.

I have never had enough patience to stay in a club for any length of time, so I rely mostly on meeting new friends in classes. There are 2 problems with that strategy.

1. Once you make 1 friend in a class, it's hard to make more. The 1 friend takes time and attention, which can't be use to scout out other friends.

2. It's hard to make friends with people who have other friends in the class (basically, the flip side of the first problem - people who already have friends are devoting their time and attention to them).

Plus, there's just a few minutes at the beginning and end of most classes when you really have a chance to mingle.

Should I be joining more clubs? I'm not in a situation where I have no friends at all, but I would like more. My college is known for its clubbing and excessive drinking, which are things I'd never do. If you ask me, a great way to spend Friday night is to go bowling ;-)

11-12-2006, 06:00 AM	#1 (permalink)
awu Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 10	Making Friends in College How did you make most of your friends in College? I am finding it difficult to make as many friends as I would like to have. What's worse, I'm now in my 4th year, not my first, so you'd think I'd be experienced by now. I have never had enough patience to stay in a club for any length of time, so I rely mostly on meeting new friends in classes. There are 2 problems with that strategy. 1. Once you make 1 friend in a class, it's hard to make more. The 1 friend takes time and attention, which can't be use to scout out other friends. 2. It's hard to make friends with people who have other friends in the class (basically, the flip side of the first problem - people who already have friends are devoting their time and attention to them). Plus, there's just a few minutes at the beginning and end of most classes when you really have a chance to mingle. Should I be joining more clubs? I'm not in a situation where I have no friends at all, but I would like more. My college is known for its clubbing and excessive drinking, which are things I'd never do. If you ask me, a great way to spend Friday night is to go bowling ;-)