I have fairly liberal view on sex, so when a female friend suggested we go visit a strip club (she is a former stripper) I agreed. I went with my friends, as well as my boyfriend.
I had to use the bathroom when we arrived, so I went off to the lady's room. In this strip club the performers get ready in the girls bathroom (probably since it is infrequently used with the majority of customers being male). I had to wait for an available stall, so while I stood there I overheard a lot of the conversation that was going on. One of the strippers was on the phone with her son, telling him goodnight, and that she loved him and would see him in the morning. Another stripper was trying to finish up her math homework (she was in college).
After seeing the strippers as real people, it made it very real to me that these were woman who were just doing their jobs. I didn't feel comfortable with the idea of watching these woman dance/strip when I knew they had families at home.
For me, I don't want to participate in sexual practices that require me to detach from reality. I could not enjoy a sexual performance from someone who is just doing their job. Plus, I did not feel any connection with the performers, and I need some level of emotional connection or attraction to enjoy a sexual experience.
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