I think the article is interesting but I think as in all the cases with gender issues, there is no one-size-fits-all for seducing any person, regardless of whether they are women or men on a general basis. Thoughtfulness requires a certain knowledge of that person at least on a friendship level first.
A thoughtful gift or action is usually personal to that man or woman. If you find (for example) that person has an interest on a particular topic...say... ballet and you find a book or trinket on the subject of ballet, that is a thoughtful gift... or simply helping a man/woman out when they are struggling, giving them a lift when they are stranded, or giving them a hand with the DIY when needed can be a thoughtful action.
I wrote a little bit about this "nice guy" issue on my blog. I have met too many men who complain that they are "nice guys" but really under the face of it they are being manipulative.
I often read all these "seduction techniques" written by men to men about how to seduce women and I cannot help but shake my head and laugh. A lot of these techniques only talk generally about how to bed a woman, not maintain a loving relationship with her and love her on a long term basis. I think if a man came onto me (as a woman) in the ways in which these "seduction experts" suggest I would feel uncomfortable... these techniques do not really appeal to me personally.
The same is true on the other end of the scale, where burnt "nice guys" suggest that women like being treated badly... I find it hard to understand why anyone that wants a lasting, strong relationship with the opposite sex could think that in order to achieve that they have to be mean or violent? It just doesn't make sense. Don't people want happy, lasting relationships anymore? The mind boggles!
...I couldn't agree more with somaziro on the boring....not boring ratio, tho. Wish I thought of it sooner!
