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Exsisto optimus · 07-04-2007, 04:32 AM

To only think about whether or not a decision "is you" ignores the fact that people change - and sometimes the choices one should make must not be according to who they are but who they would like to be. For example, if a man would like to get married and, in his search, finds the woman he believes to be perfect for him. She, however, is looking for a man who possesses qualities that he does not currently have, but could easily learn (let's say more kindness.) If the man makes a decision of whether to pursue her and a relationship with her based on whether or not doing so "is him" instead of whether or not he can learn and change from that relationship, he make miss the woman that inspires him to change his life. Knowing that woman could teach how to be more kind, through the experiences and challenges that all relationships bring. My point is, I feel we must make a decision based on logic or logical rather than emotion and feeling. In doing do, we can make decisions based on who we would like to become rather than whether or not it's the present you. If we make decision based on the present us all the time, how will we ever stretch ourselves to the future self that we can be?
Oh and Steve? i think you got jipped - $600 bucks for a desk? hmmmm.

07-04-2007, 04:32 AM	#9 (permalink)
Exsisto optimus Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1	I disagree To only think about whether or not a decision "is you" ignores the fact that people change - and sometimes the choices one should make must not be according to who they are but who they would like to be. For example, if a man would like to get married and, in his search, finds the woman he believes to be perfect for him. She, however, is looking for a man who possesses qualities that he does not currently have, but could easily learn (let's say more kindness.) If the man makes a decision of whether to pursue her and a relationship with her based on whether or not doing so "is him" instead of whether or not he can learn and change from that relationship, he make miss the woman that inspires him to change his life. Knowing that woman could teach how to be more kind, through the experiences and challenges that all relationships bring. My point is, I feel we must make a decision based on logic or logical rather than emotion and feeling. In doing do, we can make decisions based on who we would like to become rather than whether or not it's the present you. If we make decision based on the present us all the time, how will we ever stretch ourselves to the future self that we can be? Oh and Steve? i think you got jipped - $600 bucks for a desk? hmmmm.