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Originally Posted by Elenny  I have always been very close to both of them, and I know they were not sexually abused as children, and my parents didn't do anything fundamentally wrong raising us. It was just choices they made for whatever reason.
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I was radically sexually abused and never told anyone for 30 years. People, including my brother and sister thought they knew me really well, some thought they knew me intimately, deeply. Only I and the abuser (abuser's) knew. And he was a high profile public icon, who only recently was finally caught, and who, to everyones horror and disbelief, is sitting in jail. God knows how many kids he 'helped'. Whether the lady in question was abused or not who knows, but you can't assume because you don't know, that someone wasn't abused, no matter how close you think you are. I can understand some people's concerns, because sexual abuse can cause radical reactions and changes, often in a sexual context, and low self esteem is a common problem. I wish my parents had wondered that very thing, and wondered if anything was happening to me, instead of assuming that I had just 'gone off the rails', despite having such 'wonderful, gifted people' like them and my basketball coach, giving me such 'wonderful opportunities'.