Dharma and Christian: I think you both have taken some cheap shots.
I have two sisters, and they both went wild when they turned 18. One of them was a stripper for about a year. Another one got pregnant, moved to Las Vegas and became a panhandler, also for about a year.
I have always been very close to both of them, and I know they were not sexually abused as children, and my parents didn't do anything fundamentally wrong raising us. It was just choices they made for whatever reason.
People come in here with serious personal problems that usually are not easy to discuss openly anybody else. I think we should all make a conscious effort to not jump the gun and reply to a topic if we're not going to be of any help.
Single Dad did not come in here for people to tell him that his daughter might have been sexually abused as a child, or that he's been a bad father, or for someone to question the reasons he considers his daughter his best friend.
Some of you folks need to take a good hard look in the mirror.
Single Dad: My advice to you is simple. This could very well be a blessing in disguise. Now you have the opportunity to show your daughter that even though you are aware of what she's doing, you still love her, and you can both still maintain that wonderful relationship. It won't be easy getting to that emotional state of acceptance, but I think that's what you're seeking by asking for advice on how to handle the situation when she returns home.
Consider the good advice given here, dismiss the ill-willed, and keep loving your daughter like you always have.
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