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Cantando · 07-03-2007, 12:27 PM

I would like to offer a slightly differen slant to what Max and InfiniteThoughts, and others, have been saying with regard to creation, etc, in that I think what is equally or more important than creation, is how we control it.
We may create whatever we want, but it's what we choose to focus on and control that matters.
In our personal world/environment, we have created everything, but we don't control everything.
There are things we have forgotten about which we have created and they appear to be independent of our control. There are things that we do not wish to control, as they may be too boring or cost too much effort.
For example, if I am walking along a busy street and cast an eye over all the people coming towards me, I don't automatically think that I would like to consciously control all of them. I just let them be. In fact, there seems to be very little that we actually do control. If you have growing children, who are starting to go off to college or leaving home, you will know what I mean!
We need to be discerning in choosing to control those aspects which enhance our, and our family's and friends' lives. If we control too little (health, finances, relationships, etc), other people and events will quickly start to take charge of us, and our lives will invariably suffer. If we try to control too much, we become selfish manipulators and make those close to us miserable.
There are also times when we have to hand over control and put our trust in others, for example, when we board a plane, or have an operation.
If we observe our thoughts and actions during the day, it seems that what we are mainly doing is deciding what to control, and to what degree.
Creation, then, is what we decide to place in our world. Control is what we decide to do with it. So, ideally, before we create anything, we should bear in mind how we are to use or control it afterwards, i.e., taking full responsibility for what we have created.
I may create a great job, loads of money and a beautiful girlfriend, but if I am not in control to the right degree, then what good is it?
When I open a newspaper and see pictures of rich celebs like Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan and Britney Spears, I think to myself - how happy and fulfilled are they really?

07-03-2007, 12:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
Cantando Family Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: England Posts: 1,436	After creation, then what? I would like to offer a slightly differen slant to what Max and InfiniteThoughts, and others, have been saying with regard to creation, etc, in that I think what is equally or more important than creation, is how we control it. We may create whatever we want, but it's what we choose to focus on and control that matters. In our personal world/environment, we have created everything, but we don't control everything. There are things we have forgotten about which we have created and they appear to be independent of our control. There are things that we do not wish to control, as they may be too boring or cost too much effort. For example, if I am walking along a busy street and cast an eye over all the people coming towards me, I don't automatically think that I would like to consciously control all of them. I just let them be. In fact, there seems to be very little that we actually do control. If you have growing children, who are starting to go off to college or leaving home, you will know what I mean! We need to be discerning in choosing to control those aspects which enhance our, and our family's and friends' lives. If we control too little (health, finances, relationships, etc), other people and events will quickly start to take charge of us, and our lives will invariably suffer. If we try to control too much, we become selfish manipulators and make those close to us miserable. There are also times when we have to hand over control and put our trust in others, for example, when we board a plane, or have an operation. If we observe our thoughts and actions during the day, it seems that what we are mainly doing is deciding what to control, and to what degree. Creation, then, is what we decide to place in our world. Control is what we decide to do with it. So, ideally, before we create anything, we should bear in mind how we are to use or control it afterwards, i.e., taking full responsibility for what we have created. I may create a great job, loads of money and a beautiful girlfriend, but if I am not in control to the right degree, then what good is it? When I open a newspaper and see pictures of rich celebs like Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan and Britney Spears, I think to myself - how happy and fulfilled are they really?