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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  How do you cope? How do you let go?
I've developed certain feelings for a close friend of mine, but the chances of seeing those feelings returned are all but completely non-existent (if only because it would require a different sexual alignment in both of us). As much as my heart desires it, there is just no chance that pursuing this relationship would lead to anything other than heartbreak and pain for the both of us. It would just be wrong. This is just not meant to be... time to back up, take another turn and just move on.
Or so my head thinks. My heart, however, downright refuses to let go.
I know from prior experience that, eventually, my heart will cave in and move on. But I'd like to get there a little faster, so I can focus on developing other relationships that do stand a chance of being more than friends. Any advice on how to get to that goal? |
Like you said in your original post - your goal is 'move on' faster and develop a relationship with someone else.
In your response to me, you stated that after dating someone that didn't work out you fell back into 'your trap'. The answer is right there. I mean if this friendship is a real hurdle to you meeting your goal (getting over your friend so that you can find a relationship) then you honestly need to stop talking/seeing your friend. At least until you move on. Think of it as breaking up with a GF/BF - you really need to 'get over them' even in this case where you never actually dated. Once you 'get over them' hopefully the feelings you have for your friend will be much less/different and your friend won't constantly be in your mind. I also don't think this is a quick fix, it is not like after not seeing them for a week you are magically not going to think about them - it will probably take a few months.
good luck