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Originally Posted by Asmoday  Well...yeah...but having the requirement that your partner's behavior not violate your values is a condition. Hence, its conditional love, and all love is, to some degree, conditional on something.
Let go of the perfect hollywood paradigm on love and your relationships get a lot, lot better. I'm just saying.... |
You miss the point, Asmoday. If your partner's actions violate the trust inherent in a good relationship, your love for your partner doesn't necessarily disappear. Your love for that person and for yourself might dictate that you need to end or fundamentally alter your relationship with them, but the love doesn't go away.
I think of unconditional love as something that should be the basis for all one's actions. It requires you to look at the whole picture and to take the action that's in everyone's best interest, no matter what the situation. Sometimes the decision may be a clear matter of right vs. wrong, like if you're considering stealing something you can't afford. Sometimes it might be much more fuzzy, like a poor mother in a bad relationship finding herself pregnant again. But if your intentions are pure and your actions result from a sense of love for everyone involved, then you have unconditional love.