I agree. Unconditional love equals Being Love, rather than "having" love.
If you are being love, then anyone else's actions have no effect on your love, and others' actions have no effect on who you are. You are you, and you are love, and that's how it is.
If you're having love, and you feel like you* can lose love or give love or get love, depending on what other people do, well, that's conditional love and you'll feel diminished or happy or fulfilled or heartbroken, depending on others' actions. And depending on what story you tell yourself about their actions. That seems less powerful to me than being love.
Either way, you still have standards and live in accordance with them. Maybe that means you can't live with a particular person, or condone his actions, or even have any contact in some cases. That doesn't mean you can't be love or have love for the person. Honoring your standards means being love for yourself!
*edited in "feel like you" because all that having and losing and giving and getting is an illusion. |