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It's when I WANT to do something with the other person, like something fun. I try to be indiferent to the outcome, and I try and show it, but deep down I still have the feeling of attachment to the outcome, esp if it's something I want. If you want it, doesn't that automatically mean you're attached to the outcome?
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Ah, this touches definately touches the concept of "wanting it tax". The higher something is in demand, the higher the prices to pay are. It's the similar with people. Try going by this tip: if you want something, say less.
Try not to attach outcomes to people either, you may become needy then. And people "lean away" from neediness.
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Stephen, I completely forgot about the fear of failure. I did this for overcoming my shyness. I'd try starting conversations with strangers. The first five or tries no one seemed to want to talk to me, but then someone did and I was able to hold a short conversation with them. Then I realized it wasn't so scary starting a conversation, because even if they rejected me I knew I'd be closer to finding someone that did. It really wasn't a big deal for me anymore.