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Originally Posted by Midnite  How is this girl affecting your life soo much?
More importantly why have you let her affect you even at all?
I think you feel that she was using you, in order to gain advantages over your artistic/poetic friend. Do not let her methods of sabotage be psychologically detrimental. Which relays back to my original prognosis that you may possibly be 'over-protecting' your friends.
Instead of waking up to the fact that she is nothing in your life, you are still adding details to the design of your perfect subconscious monster. |
The examples I'd written down were to show that she's not the innocent-admirer victim you thought she was. She was a narcissist.
It was hard not getting affected by someone like that during high school. The situation was never resolved, she was never sorry and continued being envious particularly of my friend. When I was in college (during the times I heard her voice), I couldn't avoid running into her from time to time since we went to the same university. And she never changed, only got better - she still was fishing around for stuff about us, particularly my friend. My other friends, who regularly attend our high school reunions (I don't, but not because I want to avoid her), say she hasn't changed. Still fishing around.
After high school, I wasn't really thinking about her - to us, she was out of sight, out of mind. Which is why the voices and the dream disturbed me - why now? She's not a part of our lives anymore except as a past annoyance reappearing from time to time. Of course, a past annoyance I wanted to minimize exposure to (who wants to be pestered?), which is why, for example, I take a different route if I happened to see her.