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AaronB · 03-17-2011, 01:34 AM

I like the focus here on prioritizing "feeling good" over achieving an excuse to feel good. Life is much like a drug where people find that since they felt good when certain experiences happen, they put a tremendous effort into replicating those experiences to get the good feeling again. Also they put tremendous effort into avoiding the negative experiences to avoid the bad feelings. As bukeye said, really asking yourself and understanding why you felt good or bad in certain situations opens up a whole new world of freedom. It frees you from relentlessly seeking particular situations rather than being aware of the kinaesthetic that really produces all the motivation.

I would not say that it is more natural to feel anxious then to feel happy. I would say that I'm only disturbed if something is dusturbing me, and if I'm not disturbed then I feel at rest. When I am no longer disturbed by anything, feeling content is all that is left. If I'm not feeling that anything is missing, then what problem could I possibly have with any aspect of my experience?

I also do not like interupts. I prefer to use curiosity rather than pattern breaking. I highly value experiences that are disturbing, because they are conscious and disturbing at the same time. Being consciously disturbed to me is priceless because I have noticed my tendancy to repress things that disturb me, to the point that I am completely unaware of them. When triggers are present that disturb me, I am given a tiny window to recognize that there is something that is actively being repressed. I prefer to use this opportunity to see what it is that I am so afraid of. It is never the thing I think it is. Since as you pointed out it's all kinaesthetic in the end, all fear is really fear of a feeling. When I become comfortable experiencing a feeling that I once had to avoid, then all fear is gone and I can relax. In my personal experience many emotions that I once avoided because they were considered bad, actually transmuted into something enjoyable to feel. If you get really technical, what is it that makes a bad feeling "bad" anyway? If I try to describe a certain feeling, good or bad, in terms of actual physical experience in my body, there really is no difference between good or bad feelings. They often feel like a buzz or a tension in some part of my body, but in terms of physical discomfort, even the most painful emotions are not really physically painful. If I only describe physical sensations I actually cannot tell the difference between really good emotions or really bad ones.

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AaronB Family Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 1,433	I like the focus here on prioritizing "feeling good" over achieving an excuse to feel good. Life is much like a drug where people find that since they felt good when certain experiences happen, they put a tremendous effort into replicating those experiences to get the good feeling again. Also they put tremendous effort into avoiding the negative experiences to avoid the bad feelings. As bukeye said, really asking yourself and understanding why you felt good or bad in certain situations opens up a whole new world of freedom. It frees you from relentlessly seeking particular situations rather than being aware of the kinaesthetic that really produces all the motivation. I would not say that it is more natural to feel anxious then to feel happy. I would say that I'm only disturbed if something is dusturbing me, and if I'm not disturbed then I feel at rest. When I am no longer disturbed by anything, feeling content is all that is left. If I'm not feeling that anything is missing, then what problem could I possibly have with any aspect of my experience? I also do not like interupts. I prefer to use curiosity rather than pattern breaking. I highly value experiences that are disturbing, because they are conscious and disturbing at the same time. Being consciously disturbed to me is priceless because I have noticed my tendancy to repress things that disturb me, to the point that I am completely unaware of them. When triggers are present that disturb me, I am given a tiny window to recognize that there is something that is actively being repressed. I prefer to use this opportunity to see what it is that I am so afraid of. It is never the thing I think it is. Since as you pointed out it's all kinaesthetic in the end, all fear is really fear of a feeling. When I become comfortable experiencing a feeling that I once had to avoid, then all fear is gone and I can relax. In my personal experience many emotions that I once avoided because they were considered bad, actually transmuted into something enjoyable to feel. If you get really technical, what is it that makes a bad feeling "bad" anyway? If I try to describe a certain feeling, good or bad, in terms of actual physical experience in my body, there really is no difference between good or bad feelings. They often feel like a buzz or a tension in some part of my body, but in terms of physical discomfort, even the most painful emotions are not really physically painful. If I only describe physical sensations I actually cannot tell the difference between really good emotions or really bad ones.