I <3 my geek! We nerd out about Final Fantasy, play Magic the Gathering and D&D and install Linux distros together. We also enjoy talking about literature and cooking (he's a great cook) and psychoanalyze friends and strangers. We don't play jealosy games. He's also one of the most outwardly confident people I know -- and one of the most stubborn, and the most loyal. And yes, all of his friends have hearts of gold, even though the vast majority of them aren't geeks (save the few who are geeks in disguise). Like the article says, he's not conventionally romantic, but in his own way, he's very romantic. Perhaps I was predisposed to like geeks. My two older brothers I like to think of as geeks in disguise, too -- very sociable, good-looking and well-dressing, but they play a lot of World of Warcraft and like geeky stuff like the rest of us.
You guys should totally read
Ctrl+Alt+Del. It's a comic about two gamers that live together. One always ends up dating psychos who try to kill him, and the other is a psycho himself but starts dating the Ultimate Female Gamer. It's good stuff!
And I don't get all the talk about winters and indifference. If a guy doesn't act interested in me, I am not interested in him. And by "interest," I mean the little things -- asking me to go get coffee, noticing that I'm wearing henna, etc. And if a guy consciously gives me "winter" to manipulate me into craving another "spring," I'd hate his guts. There are other ways to build trust... and women are known for their intuition. Though also for their tendencies to look past such obvious faults for a time if they really like a guy.