[dnadadur]

Hi Charlie,

Is it possible that he reacted that way because he felt you caught him looking around? Is it possible that he was just projecting his own inner fears about his own sexuality on to you and was trying to protect himself from his own fears? It is very possible.

By walking away from the situation you made him powerless. You did the best under the circumstances. You probably left him dumbfounded since you did not respond to him further. That way you won the argument.

My son's karate teacher always tells the kids, "A best fight is a fight that is never fought. If you can walk away, then just walk away. If you are cornered, first chance you get run as fast as you can, because in a fight no one really wins." Is this being weak? No, it is just being smart. Life is too precious to waste in fighting and arguing.

Why make yourself a victim in your own mind and give power to others? Just drop the past and move forward. Life is too precious to keep thinking about the past.

Bullies live in fear of this or that. To cover up their inferiority complex, they act aggressively. Just by thinking about them and their behavior toward you, you are giving them value and power in your own mind and weakening yourself. My suggestion to you is to consciously drop whatever happened and move forward.

I hope this helps.

Thanks,
-Desika