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Oceanman16 · 06-22-2007, 08:05 PM

Thanks for the book recommendation, ATC. I'll check it out for sure.
I think you're right about several things. I do believe she's confused about what to do. I know her feelings for me have diminished over the past year. She's told me that she cares for me very much, but by now the romantic love has surely withered to almost nil. I also think that because she cares for me so much and knows how bad I'm hurting right now, that she can't bear to tell me 'no'. This is my biggest fear, but it's something I have to prepare for. Her parents divorced when she was very young and have just reunited after more than 20 years apart. I pointed to them as an example that it's never too late to salvage a relationship if it still has value for those involved. In the meantime, I know it's time to take care of myself and move on. I will do so without fully closing the door on the possibility of our getting back together again someday.

thanks again for your insight and advice.

06-22-2007, 08:05 PM	#19 (permalink)
Oceanman16 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 9	Thanks for the book recommendation, ATC. I'll check it out for sure. I think you're right about several things. I do believe she's confused about what to do. I know her feelings for me have diminished over the past year. She's told me that she cares for me very much, but by now the romantic love has surely withered to almost nil. I also think that because she cares for me so much and knows how bad I'm hurting right now, that she can't bear to tell me 'no'. This is my biggest fear, but it's something I have to prepare for. Her parents divorced when she was very young and have just reunited after more than 20 years apart. I pointed to them as an example that it's never too late to salvage a relationship if it still has value for those involved. In the meantime, I know it's time to take care of myself and move on. I will do so without fully closing the door on the possibility of our getting back together again someday. thanks again for your insight and advice.