It sounds like she is confused. And she probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings either (in saying an absolute no). I think continuing to take good care of yourself is paramount. Definitely take the pieces of advice on here that resonate with you and leave the rest. The right choice will make itself when the time is right and not a moment before.
The fact that her friends can't figure her out right now speaks to her confusion.
If you like reading at all in the area of self-help and relationships, check out a book by Byron Katie called I Need Your Love - Is That True?. I think it might have some good insight for you.
Best wishes.
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