Originally Posted by jjclark
I don't think that there is any one specific way that all charismatic people behave. Two people can behave very differently and be charismatic in their own ways. Napoleon Hill in his book Think and Grow Rich suggests spending 30 minutes a day just envisioning the person you want to become. You could picture yourself charismatic and confident. Don't underestimate the power of your mind! It's capable of a lot and we really have no way of explaining it... its fascinating.
very good. charisma starts with the mind. if you are convinced & empowered, surely you will convince others.
I'd say start with your hands in your pockets if you have a habit of crossing them. then after you've gotten your arms uncrossed,
work on using your hands to gesture, and getting them out of your pockets, not like like a wild person or anything.
where the charisma sneaks is is being positive, caring, eye contact and then touch your audience/person you are talking to from time to time. I think it's the touch that does it. It redirects the attention of the person to your conversation, and honest, not enough people touch any more. as a result we feel disconnected.
the big thing is the hug, don't pat people on the back when hugging.
give a good warm hug and release. "the pat" is like toe tapping wanting something to be over.
pats on the back reserve them for a job well done
do not wear glasses where folks can't see your eyes. my glasses, you can always see my eyes.
if you do, take them off when conversing. it lets people know you're interested and value the time you are spending with that person, even a stranger at the bookstore or equestrian center.