Hi, lightthecandle. It's hard sometimes, isn't it, trying to like yourself? I have also had trouble accepting myself and therefore being open in relationships and feeling loved.
Whenever a self-defeating thought comes into your mind, refute it. Tell yourself all of the reasons it isn't true...even if you kind of believe it's true. It will seem awkward to begin with, but eventually you will be talking positively about yourself. This could be affirmations or just talking to yourself like a friend. Challenge yourself to improve, but don't beat yourself up for your shortcomings. You will see that when you come to accept yourself, others will find you more approachable. They will accept you as well.
What are some things you think you could do to begin to accept yourself more?
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