Originally Posted by elucidate
This has been my experience with real life friends as well. I just can't be around them that much, as they all want to complain or dump some load of their own crap on me, and I've moved past that. I have just gotten a new phone number and I am very careful who I give it out to.
I want to move towards the friends I have already manifested, who I feel free to be myself around, and who listen to me, and are on the same wavelength...even if it is just one person for now. I'd rather one person who is like this than a group of people who just complain and pigeon-hole me.
This. I'm moving away from my negative friends to a very large extent.
Regarding being able to just be yourself around your friends... this has been increasing. I think you'll find this as you start just simply being courageously yourself at all costs, and organizing your life so that you can live holistically.
I'm moving toward a more unified, holistic life - most people live fragmented, compartmentalized lives. "These are my work friends, these are my school friends, this is my mate". It's especially easy as a single to live a holistic life, since I don't have to prioritize any of my people over any other of my people. I'm also always able to do things I want to do, since I enjoy my projects at school and my internship projects.
Interestingly enough, many of the people at Curious' party, I might have met them eventually anyway because of mutual friendships. It was downright uncanny - but not too surprising given the way things have evolved in the last few months.
This "holistic life" thing is probably what most people want to move toward, and I wouldn't be surprised to hear more people moving in this direction.
I wonder if the extent of feeling "shaken up" has to do with the extent to which the person had been blocked to begin with? Though I do notice on the forum, you've changed a little yourself and are one of the people I am observing to be turning over a new leaf, so I'm not surprised if you're feeling it too. BTW, at the party you were the very picture of composure and elegance.