Originally Posted by HiImJeremy
One thing i like to add that i've found recently too while counselling friends is that friendships are becoming kind of redundent.
Not all of them, but theres so much inner stuff going on that relationships you used to have with people shifted to a point where friends you used to have don't seem so important to you anymore.
I know i last year i started thinking about having friends who i enjoyed being around and could talk with and laugh with and just have a good time. But also have those things we all like in a friend like trust and compassion and loyalty.
I see a lot now everywhere around me that others are seeing the same thing. Friends weren't like they used to be.
I found this interesting. Have you guys seen this too?
YES, if I understand what you are saying.
In many cases, old friendships are going by the wayside. And in some cases, some of us are getting a new social life that we never had before.
The flip side:
I used to identify myself as being this lone weirdo, and nobody at all was like me... yadda, yadda, yadda.
But that's changed in recent months. Recently I've identified my "soul tribe"... a group of people with whom I have several common interests and a similar mindset. I have told a few people now that they were part of my "soul tribe", and probably confused the heck out of them, but I'll post a blog entry about this which explains everything. I'm able to spot now - almost immediately - when someone is this "vibration" for lack of a better term.
One aspect of the "soul tribe" is that we encourage each other's creative growth (and even professional growth) in huge ways, and in some cases, each other's spiritual growth.
I can just be myself and *breathe* around these people. They inspire me, and hopefully, I inspire them.
One thing that's happened is that as my life has grown more unified, I find I am with some member of my soul tribe at all times - my life is not compartmentalized into "school friends", "work friends", "hobby friends", etc - in many cases, they're the same people! I am surrounded all the time by people I enjoy, whether at school, when I'm out in the world or just hanging out online.
When I'm out in the full time work world, I'll probably be working with the same mindset of people, if not some of the very same people.
I've met a few people outside of this core group recently and had the uncanny experience that we had friends in common... or that I would have met them eventually, anyway!
I have clicked with a few people now like we were old friends - and we're able to talk about anything and everything. The quality of my friendships is much better than it's ever been in my life.
In the last few months, I've been in a place of increasing social abundance. What I need, has been there. I have made virtually *zero* effort toward finding these friends; we've just all sort of come together organically.
We're all highly compatible with each other in terms of interests and attitudes. I imagine I could even potentially date at least a few or more of them and be compatible, if the other factors happened to be in favor.
The flip side of this is, I find I'm just not clicking on all cylinders with some of my older friends... the ones who are not going forward in their lives, do not make connections, or who have severely blocked energy... some seem to just be kind of circling the drain, and I find I don't really have much to offer these friendships anymore. There's nothing I can do for these people, and nothing they can do for me.