People sense your low self confidence and figure you are an easy target that won't fight back. I used to get picked on and laughed at and made fun of. People having a bad day, took out their anger on me. This all changed when I gained more self confidence. I stand up straight. I look people in the eye.
People have always said I am so nice and sweet. And I still have that personality to a degree. But now I think people get a sense to not mess with me.... some have tried, and found out that I won't put up with it.
I think the more you stand up for yourself, the braver you will feel and people will get the message. If you find you are losing arguments, I would say something like - why are you doing this? Why are you being so ( insert adjective) Is this how you treat people you care about? I did this with my mom alot when I was scared of her and didn't know how to fight back. It helped somewhat, rather than just taking whatever it was she was dishing out.
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