Although confidence is good understanding goes a lot further.
What I mean is when you have to defend yourself it only gives you a temporary feeling of power. People might treat you better if they fear you but you are not really solving the problem.
If you want to solve the problem effectively you have to know what the cause of the problem is. People only act that way towards you because they are afraid of being hurt. Yes it's selfish and wrong but you can't change them. It's their God given freedom to be jerks.
Here is what I would recommend. Try to get to know them and find out why they act like that. Help them if you can. You don't have to be a doormat, but you can be helpful, you can listen to them and be more open minded. Accept the consequences of your own choices. Are you possibly contributing to this problem?
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