Originally Posted by followingthegentleway
Hello, I'm Neil. I signed-up just for this thread
Everything about this technique and philosophy appeals to me. I haven't had a chance to read the book, but I've spent a day reading this thread and Tom's newsletters. The benevolence, love and compassion that Tom describes is the world I want to live in.
But, alas, it hasn't worked for me yet. I wrote an MBO on a pad of paper and placed it next to my window. Despite living alone, I just can't bring myself to speak aloud
. Are written MBOs less effective than spoken?
Can anyone suggest a good way to experience MBOs for the first time?
Personally, I write them out before bed, and then say what I have written. It's a lot of fun for me to go back and mark off the ones that have been fulfilled, such as the whole process for me getting my new job (confidence, smooth interview, glowing references from past families, getting the position). I haven't had any experience with one that was just written down - I feel very strongly towards saying them out loud.
My most magical MBO was getting a job with a family that would see me as part of the team, be financially stable, and have the opportunity to travel with them; when I met my new employer, I was just blown away that she was checking off everything from my list! Some of it was written down, but everything was said out loud, even if I had written it down prior.
I'm still in shock that everything went as quickly and smoothly as it did.