By the way, the egoic mind is a strange thing, but you can use it for good things.
Your ego can use seemingly wrong ways of defending itself, such as using anger.
It can do such things when it feels threatened. It can in turn feel threatened when you try to give up your egoic mind, when you try to be open.
Your ego is the strong sense of "me", and it will do anything to stay that way, thus you can often feel angry, sad or frustrated.
Maybe that's why you can get these arguments in relationships, because the ego wants "me", but you, your spirit, wants "we", just a thought.
Anyway, I often, not often enough tho, know to turn anger into happiness just by observing the emotion when it happens.
If you then deduct that that emotion might indicate your love of someone, all the better.
If I had an argument with someone I hardly know, it wouldn't be much of a deal and I'd easily walk away.
Now if I had an argument with someone I love, it in fact would matter a great deal and my emotions would be greatly amplified.
So in that way you can convert your level of emotion into knowledge of how much you really care.
I found this very empowering at times, it only made me feel better eventually.
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