Yes, she sees herself as impatient, selfish and stubborn and I see myself as patient, selfish and stubborn. She sees that we have to work on this. She's the sensible one I would say in this relationship, not to say that I'm not.
We are always able to discuss these things which is very good. She always manages to open my eyes, because I can be so blind sometimes.
I asked her if we could try to stop using negative words like "no", "can't" and "won't" whenever we discuss something, so it doesn't feel so final and threatening. She loved the idea. I hope that will set our discussions in a more positive light.
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