bleachjt, you've gotten some really good responses already, so all I'd like to ask if she sees herself as impatient, stubborn and selfish and you as patient, stubborn and selfish? Do you two have the relationship evaluated in the same way? We draw people into our lives who will help us work on our issues... in this case 'stubborness and selfishness' by your estimation. Does she see that you both need to work on those two things? I ask, because if she does not acknowledge that those are areas she needs to work on too (as well as the impatience,) then you may be stuck to work on that alone, with her showing you just how ugly those qualities can get. And you must decide if you're ready for that kind of relationship.
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