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Originally Posted by bleachjt

I have a pretty new relationship with this great girl. It was wonderful in the beginning, but recently we have been arguing and fighting over all kinds of issues, hurting each other. I have to add that it an online relationship, so we have not met in person. She is impatient, stubborn and selfish, I am patient, stubborn and selfish. It's the stubborn and selfish part that we struggle with. Last night I said something that made her put up all her defenses and I was trying desperately to bring it down. We both wanted different things, and in the end she gave in to me, but it didn't feel right and I didn't want it like that. So today we argued some more and it is always like this.

We are both insecure because we have been hurt in previous relationships so we are very easy to hide behind our wall. The real problem is the ego, it allows us to hurt each other even though we love each other. We want to work on this, but I have to be honest and say I'm unsure about myself. How can I love her unconditionally? How can I know when the ego takes over? I want to control it, and not let it control me so I can save this relationship.

Using passion as your only fuel will no more assure you of success than being in love will ensure a successful long-term relationship.
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