It seems that while you’re trying to assert your adulthood your dad isn’t yet able to fully accept your independence. I can imagine it being difficult to do so, as so long as you’re under the roof of your parents, you’re to a degree their dependent, their child. Moving out would change that dynamic more quickly, but if you can deal with staying a child a while longer, accepting that “Father knows best”, then staying could be fine.
After my brother graduated with a master’s degree in computer science he came home for a year to finish up a computer program and apply for jobs. He’d done very well during the years he was off at college, but as soon as he came home the interactions became very stressful. Now he’s moved across the country with a good job, and relations have again improved. He simply couldn’t accept being anyone’s child anymore, and was hell to live with as a result.
Have you thought about what it may be like for your parents to still have you at home, particularly as you challenge their authority? It's likely there are some things you could do to make your stay with your parents more peaceful and enjoyable for everyone involved. Though when I go home it's just for a short while, I wash my own dishes, buy most of my own food, and cook for my mom at least as much as she does for me. I make myself useful and pleasant to be around. I don't argue. I listen.
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