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Originally Posted by silicon toad2000  you were gifted with 2 ears and one mouth, use them proportionately.
everyone likes to talk about themselves, listen.
Maybe skim over a book on body language beforehand, a lot of communication is non verbal. |
Agreed. Try to get her to do most of the talking. A lot of guys blow their first date because they get nervous and won't shut up. What you've got to do is "actively listen" to what she's saying, showing that you understand what she's saying, and asking her questions about herself. Girls love to talk about themselves. Believe it or not, you'll actually come off as a more interesting person to her, even though you're saying close to nothing.
Other than that, just be yourself. Try to relax. Maintain good eye contact. Try not to come off as creepy or desperate. Don't tell her weird things about yourself (but funny, embarrassing stories are usually okay). Don't complain, nobody likes a complainer. It's okay to poke fun at her a little bit, so as long as she knows you're just poking fun (it's called flirting). Smile. Make sure you take a shower and don't have bad breath. Don't overdress (it's only coffee, after all), but don't dress like a slob either. Try to have fun, because if you're not having fun then what's the point? Besides, girls like guys who know how to have fun.