I could be very wrong here but i'll put in my 1.3 cents anyway.
Sounds like your dad may feel a little threatened that he's no longer the smartest man of the house. He may well be coming to terms with your rise to knowledge. I think he still feels that he needs to ensure that you know he is in charge of the house.
I used to be an auditor and dealing with people who want you to know that they are in charge can be a challenge. It's all about perception. I got around it by offering them choices that gave the illusion that everything was up to them but ultimately led to getting the things done that I needed to do.
The parental instinct is very strong, if he thinks he is helping you then he will, but I think overpowering that is his insecurity about being the man of the house. If you can get rid of that insecurity he should be a lot easier to handle.
If it were me I would ask for his help on an issue you know is well within his abilities. After a while the insecurity should die down an he will probably be keen to help you more.
Be careful, if he suspects he is being handled you can undo all your hard work and make things worse.
Like I said I might be very wrong but from what you have written this is what came across to me.
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