I'm in agreement with a lot of what is being said here. But I'll had my two cents for fun!
You're not going to master anything while resisting it. There's no real separation between the two. You're creating the duality with your resistance. So, if you want to have sex with someone (you know, be safe) but do it with complete awareness and feeling. Or you can just realize fully how much you want it and completely own that. Addiction is all about not feeling. So bring your consciousness into everything that you do. Be willing to fully experience making new friends and being arrogant, being guilty, being tired, drunk, horny, whatever. Be aware of where you are clenching you know. Are you staying open to the experience of your life? Just sky diving into each new experience with an open heart and few expectations? Or are you spinning yourself in circles with attachments and closures? Sex and drinking can be very spiritual experiences...it just so happens that people use those things to go numb. But it doesn't have to be that way. And you don't eliminate the ego, you just get less attached to it, and learn to recognize it...then it becomes like this barking dog somewhere instead of the bull mastiff in the room that's ready to eat you for dinner. Resistance just makes the mastiff stronger and it will continue to eat you.
