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Originally Posted by frogcat  As for her, while there's many steps that can be taken, I strongly believe that for her, The First Step would be to do some vigorous exercise immediately. |
Well, lightthecandle hasn't responded for awhile, so maybe she's taking your advice!
I see what you mean about 'where you get your energy from.' I'm thinking about my early shy days, when I had it that it really cost me energy to Be With people because I was resisting it so hard. People around me would have said I was shy (like a personality trait --that's Who She Is).
Now, since I surrendered Being Shy, I see there is no such thing for me as "costing me energy," as if it were circumstances outside myself (being alone, being with people) that energized or depleted me. I generate being energized or being depleted; my vitality doesn't depend on where I am or who I'm with. I'm able to connect joyfully with people in away I could not in the Shy Days. And I'm able to freely move back and forth between Being With Others and Being With Myself. This works much, much better for me than shyness ever did! It feels a lot healthier to me to be a generator rather than a reactor. I guess the whole process of that transformation didn't feel so much like "changing my personality" as it did "letting go of things I didn't need anymore."
I can't think of any personality traits that are really "who I am." Who I Am is the consciousness that lives like a dog -- simply present and alert. Everything else is fluctuating and malleable and subject to surrender.
And like you, I am also in favor of lightthecandle (and me, and you, and everybody else) moving their bodies as much as possible. (sorry for talking about you in the third person, lightthecandle! Where are you, anyway? how is all the stuff in this thread landing on you?)
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