Originally Posted by Angela
Like I said, I think one's effectiveness in getting the results they wants hinges a lot on how skillfully one uses their rational thoughts -- including how congruent their internal representations are with the reality they live into.
If Roy isn't effected in any extreme way by not using facebook though, then what is the problem? He's obviously not too bothered by it in his reality. Maybe I'm not understanding you here?
So, someone may believe something that looks totally irrational to me -- for instance, that there is a personal, interventionist god in charge of things -- and that may be very congruent with the results they get in life. |
On the other hand, there may be someone who believes there are little ghosts who live in computers and cell phones, and those ghosts are the cause of dropped calls and Internet glitches -- and they find themselves very frustrated, irritated, scared, and dependent on others to *fix* things and to get the results they want.
I wonder if there are people like that who believe there are little ghosts in their phone?
I can totally fathom how people see things that I think are irrational! I see it all the time, in conversations here in the forums, for instance, when someone does a mind-read on someone -- they believe with all their heart that someone is saying something, when what they hear has absolutely nothing to do with anything the personal actually said, and all about an emotion that got reactivated. |
Yes, I notice it a lot too here. I probably have been that way myself at times, and I've definately been on the receiving end quite a few times.
My point is though, that whilst it may seem irrational to you, maybe it isn't at all irrational to royster? You're assuming it's irrational fear that is driving him to leave facebook aren't you? The examples you have given are of real instances of irrational thinking causing behavior to go all "dawson", whereas, in rosters case, he has reasons for leaving facebook that, whilst you may think differently on the subject, does not mean that they are irrational reasons...just that they seem that way to you because you think facebook is wonderful.
Sorry, I don't mean to go around in circles, I just feel like maybe one of us isn't understanding what the other is saying, and I'm not sure if it's you not understanding me, or me not understanding you?