I pretty much learned that the hard way, moonrambler. Also, those self-same spirit guides have taught me how to change things without activism. There is no political solution to a spiritual problem.
And I have to vindicate a whole mass of people by confessing I am seeing these undesireable traits in myself. These various events bring them to the surface, and there I am, rather miffed, but ever willing to work on myself. It doesn't matter being right or wrong; drop the ball and go to the bench. It is more important for me to ascend toward the long-term balance, and fighting short-term (in the eyes of eternity) annoyances is a waste of time, for me.
In sharing my learning, foibles, and faults with others, ALL benefit by seeing the process. In being vulnerably honest on my path, perhaps others are encouraged to also incorporate brutal honesty as a virtue for growth.