Originally Posted by jamestl2
When I meet someone, and I think they might be interested in me (can never tell really if they are wanting to be just friendly or not), I sometimes feel like I donít have a choice and my mind just preprograms itself to think about all the future great times we may have or getting married and started a family, etc. (I haven't even dated the person).
So I was just wondering how to train yourself to guard against these types of emotions, not that I want to be anything like a robot, but perhaps something more along the lines of Jedi-like, or just stronger in the emotion department, at least when I only first meet the person.
PS: Iím only 20, whoís never really been with anyone, and I do not believe I really know the difference between love and infatuation, so I may be using the term "love" prematurely.
What a great question and awesome observation of yourself. I think most of us fall prey to our emotions or sexual urges at different times and attempt to justify them by convincing ourselves we're in love.
If you can keep observing those parts of you in action and quietly smile to yourself as you do it, they don't take a hold of situations. Doing this allows you to experience friendships and relationship without being overwhelmed by them. The more you can observe yourself in different situations, the more you'll begin to understand/trust yourself.