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Anonymous,

I get the impression that you know what you don't want, but what you want is still a little fuzzy for you. At the very least its fuzzy for me. Specifically, what do you want?

Sometimes I wonder, as have others, if all this vocalizing of problems goes against the law of attraction, but I am going to try EFT, and this has been a long-winded intro that would have probably best been broken up in multiple posts in an attempt to help, or at least echo, the few others who have succumbed to a downward spiral.

Yes and no.

The more time you spend focusing on what you don't want, the more you get what you don't want. You need to focus on what you want to get in your life. When you notice that you're getting what you don't want, it's useful to reframe it into the context that what you're getting is helping you to become what you want. read: Creative Observation

I tend to think that it's very important to be able to visualize who you'll be and how you'll act after you come out of the other side of this process. The more you imagine that person the faster you'll come into congruence with that person.

We all hit challenges in our lives which lead us to transform ourselves into better people. If God (or some other observer who has your best intentions at heart) were to make a recommendation on who you should grow into, what would they recommend?

Western philosophers debate whether the mind is the brain, and this seeming snippet of Buddhism adds a third entity, the you that observes the mind. I can go for that, but rather than emotional mastery, this seems like elimination.

For me, the "mind" is part of the body. It's a tool. It's like having a robotic suit that encapsulates you or driving a car. When you are driving a car, you interact with the world differently than when you are on foot. You can go faster or slower, forward or backwards, and you can turn, but you can't jump, you can't go sideways, etc. It's just a limitation of how you interact with the world. I (the observer) pay attention the emotions that my body and mind are reacting to and if I (all parts of me) am not acting in the way that I (the observer) desires, then I use my consciousness to readjust my actions. The observer is what pays attention to stuff. It's aware. If you want to grow that portion of you practice being aware.

You seem like you already think from an observer type of perspective, so you probably aren't too far off from being able to feel or understand what the difference is.

I'm not sure exactly what you mean by elimination. I see it as having a better understanding of you situation which gives you more knowledge to be able to use the tools you have to get what you want (happiness). From the ego's perspective, it might seem like you are trying to eliminate the ego, but your ego is unable to see the whole picture clearly. Everyone knows that the mind has 2 parts (the unconscious and the conscious) Your unconscious mind can run your life if you let it. Your unconscious mind is best suited for doing the tasks that you have already habitualized (or anything you are comfortable doing on autopilot and would expect good results, like you can drive your car or walk without having to really think about it). Your conscious mind is there to keep tabs on everything and make the necessary corrections if your unconscious mind isn't getting you the results that you want. The unconscious mind is controlled by your emotions. Your conscious mind can choose to control your emotions or to retrain your brain to feel different emotions given a certain situation. By being aware of your consciousness you can take more control over your life. Your unconscious is stimulus->response. Your conscious is not limited by that.

I'm also confused as to how goals(life versus life situation)are set according to this system.

I'm not going to try to speak for the "system" but rather for my own amalgym (sp?) of thoughts and understandings.

What's the difference between you and anybody else? How come you're not homeless, a rapist, a pro basketball player, or a great businessman who could be broke one day and making tons of money not too far after? The difference is not so much in your circumstances, it's in the actions you take. You could take someone's brain and stick it into your body and life situation and they would do some things better than you and get them handled and they would do some things worse than you and they would fall into disrepair. If you took someone's brain who was great with the ladies and stuck it into your body and situation, it wouldn't take long before they were getting tons of women using the same things that you have available to you.

It's a difference in mindsets. With intention-manifestation, your goal is to remake yourself into the person who can with confidence expect to get the results you want to get. The more action that you take, the easier it is for the universe to help you out. It isn't a wishing well as much as it is an identity shift.

For example, I recently graduated from college and I was looking for a job. I'm an engineer so I am not currently great with social skills so I had a lot of trouble with interviews. I made the intention of the job that I wanted. What was the work environment? How did it help me and benefit me? I didn't pick a single job, but I imagined how the job would affect me for the better and best fulfill me. Then, I tried to imagine what the person who was hiring me was looking for in an ideal candidate, meaning how could I change myself to become the person that would easily get the job the universe was trying to send me. It might seem like you are changing yourself to become something else, but in reality the job the universe is sending you is the job that you are best suited for and the job you will be happiest with.

Happiness is what you are supposed to feel all the time. Unhappiness is what happens when you don't really know who you are and you can't control the situation enough to be happy. Life is the practice field, where you have the opportunity to practice making yourself happy. You have an ideal self (often called your higher self) which is your end result. It's a being that is capable of being perfectly happy at all times. It has gone through endless lifetimes and has changed itself many times so that it doesn't need to be unhappy.