It has been a few days since I've checked back here and I'm totally floored by the advice you've all offered. I really appreciate it all.
The advice seems to have a common thread. Be strong, be confident, fight for her but don't smother her. All great advice.
Right now I have to concentrate on my life and making sure I'm healthy and happy. I keep busy with exciting work projects, I'm busier than ever there, and am about to go to the next level with my career. So this kind of turmoil has some benefits in that it forces me to work harder than ever on these projects. I'm sure it all makes me look that much more attractive in her eyes. In the meantime, I'm considering dating. It will be very casual but I need some distraction and some fun right now. (maybe that will work to my advantage too.)
I will also try to heed Medaille's advice to "get rid of trying to manifest 'us' ".
Once again, thanks for all your advice. I will keep checking.