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Old 11-10-2006, 10:12 PM
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I can relate to this thread in a way.

I have had some internal conflicts regarding whether i should strive to spend my time only with high (type1)quality people (obviously using my own definition for that) or flowing with (type2)whoever crosses my path offering them something of high value.

On one hand, if I think of the higher good of all, I believe I grow more and faster when surrounded by type1. Therefore in the long run it would benefit the world more and myself if hang with them as much as possible.

On the other hand, if I dont spend time with type2, I am depriving them from the opportunity of reaching further through my support. Sure, I like it when I see that happening, but often times it's one tenth of what another person could've grasped.

I think it comes down to balance. I want people to feel good arround me, but there is a line that shouldn't be cross: when they start demanding more time from me than I was willing to give away. Sometimes type2 people get somewhat amazed (please try to understand me here, I'm not trying to showw off and am no hero yet ) and you are filling a void in them which makes you very attractive. Those people end up thinking they are entitled to get as much value from me as possible. I was just being nice, they take it too far.

Spend MOST of your time with type1, the rest will be inevitably interactions with type2, which will give you perspective anyways.

-Note: this type1 & 2 thing I wrote it off the top of my head. I do not encourage putting such labels on the people you interact with. It was just to help me make my point.
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