In my experience, role models work extremely well.
Steve is a good role model to me because he shows that one can be unconventional and also successful. Around me there were successful yet conventional people like my sister and unconventional yet unsuccessful people like my exboyfriend.
I have a lineup of feminist role models. Susie Bright is a role model because has already passed menopause and she's overweight but she is a proud slut feminist and erotica writer. She also has a daughter and they seem to have a good sisterly relationship which I would like if I have a daughter. Betty Dodson is 75 and overweight. My poor grandmother is the same age and does nothing all day, not even watch TV. Betty Dodson has her own website and even has a boyfriend. They give me hope that there is life after looks fade and that weight isn't that serious.
I would still say though that you should try not to mimic role models and that you should still be your own leader.