Sometimes anger is caused by a conflict of “personal rules.”
A “personal rule” is a rule that we have for specific situations… like, some people believe that it is OK to let kids be loud and unruly when they are in public… while others believe that kids are no exception and that they should behave in a civilized manner while in public…
The problem with “personal rules” is that most people believe that their own “personal rules” are universal and adopted by every one… which, obviously, they are not…
So, when an argument arise… it is usually a conflict of “personal rules” so, when an argument does arise… we must ask ourselves… which is most important… my rule… or harmony and peace…
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