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Originally Posted by WayToTwilight  I think I also sometimes I don't accept compliments well is because occasionally I fear becoming exceedingly arrogant. Sometimes I am afraid of becoming so overconfident that it'll cloud my mind. On the other hand, being too 'underconfident' can cloud my mind as well. I guess we just have to strike a balance and maintain a good attitude. |
I have that problem a lot. I gave up 'beating myself up' for Lent one year -- sounds really weird, but it worked! What I wasn't willing to do for the benefits to myself, I was willing to do because I'd made a promise to God. I didn't have to stop
believing I sucked, but I did have to stop saying it to myself. So when I set the potholder on fire by turning on the wrong burner (true story!) I said, "Oh my God, I'm such an idio.... NO. I promised I wouldn't say that." And by Easter the negative self-talk had stopped coming into my head.
But sometimes that negative self-talk is necessary. During that Lent, I wasn't allowed to say things like, "You really hurt that girl. What kind of horrible person would say things like that?" But if I
did really hurt her,
someone needs to say that to me! I find myself wavering now between self-loathing and psycopathic arrogance. But I think my wavers are getting smaller, so I hope I'm finding the right balance.
Does anyone have advice on how to control one's ego without putting oneself down?