So i work in a complex with other companies which also has a cafe which we all frequent (i work as a personal trainer in a gym within the complex). About 9 months ago i started seeing this girl in the cafe who caught my eye. I new which company she worked for and since one of my clients was the marketing manager of that company, i asked about her.
My client had approached her and told her that i was interested in her. She told my client that i should introduce myself to her, although i did come to my attention that she was dating someone at the time. I didn't approach her since i felt the timing was not right.
Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago when my client is leaving her building and runs into this girl. It turns out that she tells my client that she's breaking up with her boyfriend. My client tells her that would be of good news to me, which drew a smile from the girl i like.
I subsequently introduce myself to her over the coming weeks and we start to run into one another at the same cafe. This week i bit the bullet and approached her inviting her for a coffee while (as i later found out) she was in a meeting with other colleagues in the cafe. I caught her off guard off course and she responded as best she could telling me that we'd catch up next week at the cafe.
Anyway. My question is how does one remove himself from the outcome (detachment) of wanting to be with this person? I understand that if one focuses on the subject then you freeze the possibility of that occurrence to become reality. I like this girl and I feel that it is difficult to not think about her often.
I have read some interesting posts from
Secrets of Mind and Reality - MindReality.com, though have found ambiguous meaning in some of the posts that relate to intending/desiring things in your life. How does one remove himself in relation to thoughts about this person, since i am finding it difficult when my emotions get the better of me.