Depression is a trap, you must recognize it and get away from it. It's a time bomb that leads to self-destruction. Don't let it take over you.
We are mostly depressed because we "WANT" but we "CAN'T."
You can help it by "not wanting anything," by living a simple life. Some people can do it, but some people can't because the "WANT" is too strong. It beats/pumps like a heart "WANT" "WANT" "WANT."
In order to live a healthy life, you should have a beat like:
"I WANT" "I CAN"... "I WANT" "I CAN" ... "I WANT" "I CAN"...."I WANT" "I CAN"....
However, if you are beating like:
"I WANT" "BUT I CAN'T"... "I WANT" "BUT I CAN'T" ... "I WANT" "BUT I CAN'T"...."I WANT" "BUT I CAN'T"....
you are certainly falling (or about to fall) into the depression trap.
So, how to move out of this trap?
It's not that complicated. First of all, IT'S UP TO YOU!
Secondly, please don't forget, "it's up to you" ...again, sorry.
It's really easy, it's just a matter of bringing your beat back to "I WANT"..."I CAN"... and it's really up to you. (I really apologize for mentioning it again
)
The three stage process:
The first thing you need to do is so easy that you will be amazed and you will wonder why you haven't done it before.
If you are alive, you are already accomplishing lots of things daily, but you are not aware of it just because you are not tracking all these small accomplishments.
Just track what you are already doing! By the end of the day, take a few minutes to write down on a piece of paper or software (I recommend
GoalEnforcer) all the stuff you have accomplished during the day. It should be easy, and you'll be delighted.
After some time, by just doing this your beat should have changed to something like:
"I WANT" "
BUT I CAN'T"... "I WANT" "
I CAN" ... "I WANT" "
BUT I CAN'T".... "I WANT" "
BUT I CAN'T".... .. "I WANT" "
I CAN'"....
There are still lot's of "I CAN'Ts", but see that you've inserted a few "I CANs." You have already started moving the scale to the other direction.
Now stage 2:
After spending a while in stage 1, and feeling that you have boosted enough confidence and relieved some depression, you are ready to move to stage 2.
Now, instead of just writing what you have accomplished during the day, also write down what you want to accomplish for the NEXT day. But make sure you write SMALL goals, something SMALL and REALISTIC, that CAN be accomplished. Nothing like "be a billionaire." Stuff like "clean my desk" makes more sense.
Spend some good time on stage 2. I would say, at least 2-3 months.
Review your beat again. Check that you have inserted many more "I CANs."
It might look like this by then:
"I WANT" "
I CAN" ... "I WANT" "
BUT I CAN'T"... "I WANT" "
I CAN' ... "I WANT" "
I CAN'"...."I WANT" "
BUT I CAN'T"....
Stage 3:
Now the big challenge, you are ready to move to larger goals. You now have the confidence that you can achieve smaller goals (stage 1 and 2).
What are big goals? Just a set of smaller goals! A big goal is not a big monster. It can be broken into smaller goals, and therefore it can be achieved. You have already done it!
Keeping adding larger and larger goals to your list (but making sure you break them into little cute inoffensive sub-goals). After a few months you should have a healthy beat like:
"I WANT" "
I CAN" .... "I WANT" "
I CAN" ..... "I WANT" "
I CAN" .... "I WANT" "
I CAN" .... "I WANT" "
BUT I CAN'T"... "I WANT" "
I CAN" ....
Remember, you (and any other human) will never reach the perfect, idealistic 100% "I WANT" I CAN" beat.
You are still going to have a few (but just a few) "I CAN'Ts" inserted in between, but hey....