 Lightthecandle, indeed!
Here's the thing: as long as you're focused on your scars (or any other aspect of yourself, for that matter), you are not present in a conversation. That makes people edgy, uncomfortable, and bored. It's likely that your focus is also drawing the attention of your conversation partners directly where you don't want it to go!
The most interesting people are people who are interested. When you are ready to give up your self-focus and really actively be present to the person you're talking with, they will not see any scars, they'll only see the candlelight of who you really are. By the way, the same would be true if a person were hyper conscious of their own beauty -- that also gets in the way of being present, and makes people edgy, uncomfortable and bored!
I wish I could go back in time and tell my 20 year old self what a horrendous waste of time and spirit it is to worry about how you look! So, thank you for letting me tell you instead. You are perfectly perfect. Practice being really present, and when you feel self-consciousness creeping in, thank it and let it go, and go back to being present.
Another thing I wish I could tell my 20 year old self is: Pro-Activ works really, really well.
Lots of love and best wishes,
Angela
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