Finding people in bars and in clubs is the worst thing to do. I don't think you can find a *quality* person this way. It's a great way to find someone to sleep with but not a lasting relationship. Ask yourself - "Where would my dream woman/man be found? Where would they be socializing? Where do the successful people in my area hang out?"
I think the best way to find the perfect person is to first
become the type of person that you want to be with. For example, if you are overweight, unhappy with your job or broke, do you think you will attract someone who has their life together? No, you will attract someone who is also unhappy, unsuccessful and broke. If you are serious about meeting the right person, become the right person yourself first. Get your life together. Go to places where you believe the successful person would be found (like this forum!). Only then will you find your
reflection in the opposite or same sex if you're gay. Please read the quote I put below.
"A soul mate is equal to who we are, so the first thing we have to do is fall in love with ourselves. We have to like who we are. Otherwise, if we don’t, we’re going to get frequency specific with people in our life that...reflect back to ourselves. So, first thing fall in love with yourself. Be to you what you would love to have in another person." - JZ Knight
This is a complicated issue for a lot of people and it used to be for me as well. But I've stopped searching for love because I'm working on becoming the type of woman that I've always wanted to be. I'm so involved with personal growth , that I'm intending/manifesting for the right person to come along later. Right now everything is about me and maybe you should try the same approach for yourself. It's not about being selfish, it's about caring for yourself and your well-being.
So center everything around improving your life.
Make YOU the most important person in your life. Then after much effort and work, you'll have upgraded your standards for dating so high, that only the
best mates will be attracted to you. Only then will you attract your dream person
Good luck in finding love. It's hard, but so is personal growth
PS: When you become who you really want to be, you won't have to go looking for love because people will just start popping into your life.